A few weekends back I threw a baby shower for a dear mama friend of mine. She was having her third baby, and her first shower. I vacillated over what ‘kind’ of shower to throw. Formal? No kids, only women? GAME SHOWER! Lots of “don’t say baby!” and smelling candy in a diaper? Or some hybrid new age BBQ with Dad’s and beer (Uh, I am a fan of that kind of shower, FYI)? Or something else. . .
Well, procrastination won out (shocking?), and the shower was a low key success. But while planning it and stressing over not having enough details and games, I let it go and planned the kind of shower I would want. And learned a few things that I think make for a really nice friend baby shower.
1. Don’t over plan. If this is a group of friends then chances are the time will be filled with lots of gabbing, laughing, crying (if your like me), and eating. You won’t need stuff to “fill” the time.
2. At least one cheesy fun thing. For us it was a “spoon” test to predict the baby gender! Super quick, fun, full of funny lore, and exciting.
3. Good food! I went the easy way out and hosted a potluck, my friends? THEY CAN COOK! Lots of other mamas brought stellar snacks and I made mini bacon fat peach pies and got some donuts from a tasty local shop.
4. Serve booze. Just because she’s pregnant doesn’t mean you have to hold the mimosas. In my opinion? never hold the mimosas.
5. Make it kid friendly in some capacity, not everyone can/wants to leave their kiddos behind on the weekend. What we did was had Charlie and the Dad to be (third time over) hang out in the back yard with pizza, snacks, and whatever kiddos came. They had their own daddy daycare going with the benefit of Mama’s inside to help out whenever things got hairy. Just be sure to stock them up with snacks!
6. Henna. Just do it. The results are so beautiful, meaningful, and fun! Our Mama of honor got a beautiful belly design and then each attendee also got a small henna design (matching) that they could look on and have to remember to pray and think on our friend while she labors.
7. Accept help. A friend to bring favors? sure! Wants to pick up a coffee service? yup! You happen to have some darling bunting? I’ll take it! It takes a village guys!
8. Enjoy it! If you, the host, are having fun; Chances are your guests are too.
And, also, beware. Having a gorgeous pregnant belly getting hennaed feet from you? It WILL make your baby fever burn with the heat of a thousand suns. You’ve been warned.